Conversations at the Crossroads.

Who’s on Your Team?

Major transitions—in our careers and our lives in general—can be challenging.

They often require some degree of planning. It is likely they will take time to navigate and generate momentum. They typically demand a stockpile of patience, energy, and courage.

As if that weren’t enough, our attempts at transformation frequently lead to feelings of isolation. In the precise moment that we recognize our inherent power to take greater ownership over the course of our lives, it’s not uncommon to look around and notice how many others are floating along with the downstream current, while we are endeavoring to swim upstream.

That realization can slow us down, or bring our efforts to a halt, allowing self-doubt to creep in.

If I’m the only one swimming upstream, what does that say about my choice?

I should probably just stop complaining and be happy where I am. 

If change is such a good idea, why isn’t everyone else doing it?

When confronted with feelings of doubt and isolation that threaten your progress, it can be valuable to pay closer attention to the circles in which you run, and the people with whom you spend your time. How well are they supporting you? What are their viewpoints on personal transformation, and in what ways are they modeling or projecting those beliefs?

The key question here is: To what extent are your relationships encouraging or discouraging your pursuits?

If you feel alone or without support, look to find others who are modeling the kind of change you seek, and forge new or stronger relationships with those individuals or groups. People who share your mindset, spirit, and drive—your fellow ChangeMakers—can be a significant source of inspiration and an invaluable support team when you are doubtful or stuck.

Make a choice to surround yourself with open-mindedness and optimism. Create your own high-energy team. It makes all the difference.

“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson


With support and encouragement for your journey,

Founder, The Crossroads Coach

Published on January 28, 2014