Conversations at the Crossroads.

You Did Everything Right

It’s the last day of 2014, and I have one question for you:

What did you do right this year?

I imagine you’d find it easier to describe all the ways in which you believe you failed or came up short.

I am sure that you have a long list of coulda-woulda-shoulda’s — for example,

I could have been more productive.

I would have made different choices.

I should have been more disciplined.

But that’s not what I’m asking.

I want to know what you did right.

And I will even give you a hint:

You did everything right.

I invite you to consider this and take it to heart. At any moment you look back on, choose to believe that you did the best you could with what you had and what you knew. Because that is what it means “to do things right.” It’s about showing up to your life, every day, no matter what you are faced with, and doing the best you can.

That’s not to say the outcomes were always what you wanted. That’s not to say you won’t make a different choice next time. But the burden and weight of regret diminish when we trust that the decisions we make are a product of who we are at the time that we make them. You can only be the version of You that you are at this moment, just as the earlier You was all that you were then ready to be.

Be kind to yourself today and acknowledge all that you’ve done right this year and up through this point in your life. Make resolutions for 2015 if it is your inclination to do so, but let those resolutions be an expansion upon what went right rather than a course correction for what you believe went wrong. When you leverage what’s already working you can build momentum. Resolutions that read like a punishment aren’t empowering at all.

Know that you did everything right this year, and think about how that belief sets you up to do more and to be more in the year ahead. I would love to hear what you’re planning.

With support for your journey, and wishing you happiness in the new year,

Founder, The Crossroads Coach

Published December 31, 2014